If you’re an avid public speaker, you’ve probably gotten many tips. Here are five tips I think you can avoid:
“Just Try To Relax” – A recent Harvard study proved that “trying to relax” before you speak doesn’t work so well. It’s a better idea to try to re-frame your pre-speech anxiety as excitement. Try telling yourself “I’m excited to give this presentation” just before you speak.
“You Have Too Much Data” – Data is not your enemy. Well-placed statistics can build your argument. The danger is misplaced data. Make sure each statistic builds your argument logically, and don’t add data you don’t need.
“Speak Quickly To Meet Your Time Limit” – I see this one get many speakers into trouble. You never want to rush when you present. If you feel that your presentation is too long, cut it down, but don’t speed up.
“It’s Important To Gesture” – It is good to gesture, but the most powerful speaking tool is your voice. Stillness helps the audience pay attention to your words, and your ideas. Too much movement can distract from your speech.
There are 44 different sounds in American English. All are important, but some sounds are more important than others. Which sounds should you tackle first?
Vowel sounds play a very important part in language. We lengthen and intone vowel sounds when we emphasize certain words in a sentence. We also lengthen vowel sounds to indicate syllable stress. Vowel sounds play an important part in making words, and sentences, knowable.
Practice these sounds:
1.) The “Cat” Vowel Sound – This is a very common vowel sound. To make this sound, bring your lips into a smile. Keep the tongue flat. The sound is short.
2) The “Fun” Vowel Sound – This sound often gets mispronounced. Many executives, especially Russian speakers of English, make it more complicated than it is. This sound is made by keeping the jaw and tongue very relaxed. The sound is short. It sounds like a small grunt.
3) The “High” Vowel Sound – This sound is long and your lips, tongue and lower jaw move while you make it. To start, round your lips as if you are holding a small ball in your mouth. As you make the sound, move your lips into a slight smile, and arch the middle of the tongue high toward the hard palette. Count to two as you make the sound.
What does this mean for you, seeker of English excellence? It means if you live in New York or New Jersey, it’s likely you are being judged by your accent by your peers, but not much. How could you be? It’s likely your peers (and your boss) have accents too.
The only reason to adjust your accent if you live in the Northeastern U.S. is to improve your ability to be understood. If you are regularly misunderstood, it’s imperative that you run your presentations by a coach, and get accent reduction training. If you have an accent, but you are not regularly misunderstood, don’t waste your time on accent reduction. Accents are beautiful things, and wonderful conversation starters (not to mention attractive, let’s be honest) so why try to get rid of it? Sometimes the best way to get over an accent is to simply accept it.
A good TED Talk needs to be simultaneously intellectually stimulating and personally revelatory. Lean too far toward the revelatory and the speech will become too maudlin, lean too far toward the intellectual, and the speech will become too dry.
I have seen few TED talkers balance the intellectual argument of their speech with personal revelation quite as well as Monica Lewinsky. She starts the speech with an engaging attention-getter. From there, we move quickly to the moment by moment details of the Clinton scandal; the sensory experience of what it was like to be interrogated by Kenneth Starr’s team, the shame and humiliation she felt, so much so that her parents insisted she shower with the door open in case she attempted suicide, and the experience of seeing her name slandered over and over again in the media. Concurrently, Ms. Lewinksy builds her argument against the “culture of humiliation” which has been accelerating since the advent of the internet. Her argument is loaded with pertinent data, and compelling contrasts and comparisons. All this builds to a righteous, and well-deserved call to action.
If I were to nit-pick, I would suggest Ms. Lewinsky relax her hands a bit as she presents as she has a tendency to wring them as she speaks, but this is a minor distraction. Overall, this is one of the best TED talks I have seen in years.
Do you find yourself at a loss for words when someone asks you what you do for a living at a networking event? You’re not alone. Many people find it difficult to articulate what it is that makes their services unique in a short time frame, or they bobble their delivery. Try these five tips:
1) Know What it is that Makes Your Business Unique – This is crucial. For example, when I am asked what it is that I do better than other speech coaches, I’m sure to emphasize that my training is tailored to each client’s unique personality.
2) Keep it Short – Keep it to two minutes or so, not ten. We’re all busy.
3) Take your Time – Keep in mind that even if you have said your pitch a hundred times, your listener is hearing it for the first time. Don’t rush. Take your time.
4) Run your Pitch by a Colleague – Get feedback. Many pitches aren’t as clear and consice as they could be. A colleague can help you identify where the gaps are in your pitch.
5) Avoid Lingo – Keep your pitch very simple, and keep in mind the person or people you are talking to may not work in the same industry you work in. Avoid lingo, and be very consice.